Will this change your life? We’ll see!
TBy Pamela Latour, Ph.D.
There is an old story of a farmer who had worked his
crops for many years. “One morning his horse got away.
When his neighbor heard the news, he exclaimed “Such bad
“We’ll see,” the farmer replied.
The following day the horse came home, accompanied by
three other wild horses.
“That’s wonderful!” the neighbor declared.
“We’ll see,” said the old peasant.
The next day the farmer’s son was riding one of the untamed
horses, he was thrown off and broke his leg. The neighbor
came once more to offer his sympathy on the misfortune.
“We’ll see,” answered the farmer.
leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated
the farmer on how well things had worked out.
“We’ll see” said the farmer.”
When I look back on my life I wonder how many times I
have gotten in my own way by exclaiming “Such bad luck!”
or “How wonderful!”. Often when we decide an experience
and stop the possibilities and potential of what would have
How connected and integrated we are with life will determine
how happy we are. Integration means intimacy and
feeling life. So many of us think about life without feeling it,
as who wants to feel all of that crap anyway? (I’m half kidding,
as it’s often true.)
This is not a numbness to life where we don’t experience
highs or lows, this is an acceptance and a love of what is.
When we understand that we are riding a wave, it’s so much
easier to feel the wind on our face and the movement of the
control). Whether we are on a high or low we are clear that
it’s all real, but temporary. Experiencing both the positive and
negative parts of life without judgment will give us insight
into our own personalities and an ability to let go of what’s
good and bad and appreciate what is.
On the dark side of things, this doesn’t mean that if you
are in a dangerous or unhealthy situation that you should just
stay there and ride the wave. No. That will suck you under
the water. If you need to insure your safety or that of your
line of a busy highway and see it as ups and downs. First get
out of danger. Get out of the area where you might get hit.
Then it’s possible to begin healing by focusing attention on
love and trust in life and releasing the fear that the other shoe
How do we stay balanced and happy as we go
through the ups and downs of life?
1. Take a slow breath, in and out ten times, while you
are doing something you don’t have to think about, like vacuuming
for example. As you breathe try to keep your attention
focused on your breath instead of your thoughts. This
will bring you into your feelings. If your attention wanders,
bring it back to your breath until you can count to ten with a
clear focus on your breath. This isn’t easy, so give yourself a
break if you can’t do it right away.
Do it a little every day until you’ve
mastered it. Focus is the key to happiness.
2. Write a note to yourself in
your own words, that says something
like, “No matter what happens
today, I am grateful for my
life. I love that I am alive!” Feel it.
When you experience anything you
don’t like, reread the note and feel it
Will this change your life?
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