Life
developing healthy
relationships
6 essential tips for attracting healthy relationships
Relationships are crucial in our lives.
Healthy relationships take time to nurture
and create. When a relationship ends we
feel the pain. We are left to flounder on our own
on how to fix the relationship, whether we should
fix it, or how to recover from the relationship.
Building healthy relationships from the beginning
is essential to avoid pain of broken relationships.
It’s about building the essential bridges that serve
to salvage hurt minds, bodies and souls. It about
reversing pain, neglect, and lack of understanding
with love, commitment and caring.
Here are 6 ingredients for healthy relationships
that we should strive to develop in every
relationship, especially those close to us, our close
friends, buddies, colleagues and even business
relationships.
1. Acceptance, Empathy and Respect for the
other Person. Essentially, it is love. Love is much
deeper than a feeling. Love is a commitment we
make to people to always treat that person right
and honorably. To understand and accept the
other person as he is.
2. Fulfilling of needs. “You can have everything
you want in life if you help enough other
people get what they want out of life.” A healthy
relationship helps meets needs. We serve – and
get in return –without consciously and eagerly
expecting, of course. It will come- mutually and
naturally.
3.Open and honest communication.
“Communication is to relationships what breath
is to life” The key to communicating is to be a
good listener, have something good to say and
express yourself well. Project warmth,, empathy
and caring. By letting the other person know what
we think and feel, it lets us connect with the other
person. It enables us to make a connection. Both
listening effectively and communicating what we
feel is essential.
4.Stickiness- Patience and Loyalty. We are
humans and humans make mistakes after all. And
it takes time to change. Often, those who give up
on relationships too early or because the other
person isn’t perfect, often forget that their next
friend, their next spouse or business partner, will
not be perfect either! And those who have gone
through major turmoil in their relationship and
emerged with patience have emerged stronger
after the crisis.
5. A Common Purpose. Working together,
building together, failing and succeeding together
– while pursuing a common purpose - that is
what relationships are made of. “ To associate
with other like minded people in small purposeful
group is for the great majority of men a women
a source of profound psychological satisfaction”
Aldous Huxley Find people with whom you
have common purposes with. In your current
relationships, find a common purpose to look
forward to. It will gel and create long lasting joy
and benefits.
6. Fun. Fun brings enjoyment to the relationship.
Often, this is forgotten or neglected in our
family and spouses. Especially when we take the
relationship for granted. We have to remember to
consciously create fun situations and moments
that we will remember with amusement and
gratitude for a long time. Like family fun time
and special moments together…
Having and developing all these takes time. But
it is the most rewarding activity one can have.
You’ll not regret and be ever so grateful you did
at the end.
May Chew
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