SDo not put a dish in this sink!
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ago I lived in the Middle East. We were a diplomatic
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to the Embassy. It was necessary to put
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and receptions and the pace was fast and furious.
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my children developed lazy habits because
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they spent a large portion of their lives with live-in domestic
help. When we came back to the United States, these patterns
created a challenge. We were no longer obligated to do the frequent
entertaining and my children needed to learn how to handle
life without someone cleaning up behind them. I especially
did not want that someone to be me.
The dishes in the sink became a problem immediately. The
kitchen was open to the rest of the house and a pile of dirty dishes
seemed to be looking at me all the time. My instructions to put
the dishes in the dishwasher turned into nagging which turned
into yelling and I decided I needed to change my approach. I created
a large sign that said. “All dishes get washed or put in the
dishwasher. DO NOT PUT A DISH IN THIS SINK!” This sign
worked and the daily glasses, cups and plates no longer got piled
up. I knew that if I took down the sign my kids would resort to
their old habits. It stayed up.
Fall turned into winter and I had forgotten about that sign.
My brain stopped taking pictures of it when I walked into the
kitchen. I forgot it was there. When you come into the same room
every day, after a while you don’t notice the small pile that is accumulating
in the corner or the sign by the sink. It’s like walking,
talking or driving, your brain embeds the way your environment
looks and stops actively looking at it.
At Christmas time I invited neighbors and students over
for a party. At one point in the evening I began wondering why
that there was a line of people waiting in front of the sink to wash
their dishes! Aside from this being funny now, I am still in shock
at my oversight on taking that sign down.
If we see the same rooms in the same house, the same car,
day after day, no wonder we get stuck in a rut! Our brain shuts
down when it sees something over and over again. When this
happens, we tend to feel like there is nothing interesting in our
environment. In this state we just think of something or someplace
else. These thought programs we go to often carry messages
of how we’re not good enough, smart enough, young enough,
old enough, pretty enough or loved enough.
Every thought has an emotion and every emotion carries
with it a vibration, i.e. how fast or slow we move. There is a gland
in the center of our brain called the hypothalamus. This gland
manufactures a chemical match (or neuropeptide) for any emotion
that we feel. These neuropeptides wash through our body
and connect to the cells. The cells change how our body feels and
If we are sad, depressed or in grief those neuropeptides
slow our body and our energy down and we begin slumping
our shoulders, speaking slowly, and lowering our head and eyes.
When our emotion changes to fear, anger, or frustration, our energy
speeds up a little. If you could compare the emotion with
touch, fear would feel sticky and anger would feel like daggers
hitting whoever the person was angry at. If you have walked into
thick you could cut it with a knife, you know what I mean.
When we become calmer and settle into boredom, contentedness
or cheerfulness, our energy expands and we move into
a state where others can stand to be around us. When we approach
happiness, enthusiasm, and gratitude, we begin thinking
Love is where we magnetize or attract people to us. Everyone
wants to be loved. Love of the people in our lives, love for our-
leaves the rut far behind.
We all move up and down this emotional ladder every day.
It’s when we get stuck in the emotion that causes a problem. Feeling
the same dominant negative feeling every day creates an addiction
to the emotion. We begin looking for something that will
make us feel that emotion again. Have you ever known someone,
that no matter what happens, gets pissed off about it? The hypothalamus/
neuropeptide connection is also what addicts us to
opioids. We get addicted to our own emotional state and look for
experiences that allow us to feel that emotion again.
Consistently slow-moving emotion will cause slow moving
energy through the body. As energy stays slow, it opens the door
to disease. Energy that can’t move through the body the way it’s
supposed to, gets stuck. The body tries to repair
it by sending more energy to the area.
When you get a scrape on your skin, it hurts
because the body is sending extra energy to
heal the wound.
We can unstick this emotional and
physical lethargy by focusing on how much
we love. Love speeds up our body and the
body of the person we are sending love to.
Taking our attention off of the normal issues
and problems and intentionally feeling love
our thoughts to love brings our environment
back to life. It makes us bigger than our
Three things that we can do to immediately
1. Every night, before you go to sleep,
write three things that you love that happened
that day. Little or big things, it doesn’t
matter, the important thing is being grateful
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