Become who you might have been
(George Eliot was really Mary Anne Evans who
published under this pen name in the 1800’s)
By Pamela Latour, Ph.D.
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When did I decide who I am? I think this sense of “Who
I Am” slowly crept up on me. The gradual build-up of living
for more than a few decades convinces us of our identity. We
somehow believe that we are the accumulation of everything
that we were. All the decisions, the experiences, the joys and
pain and love and hate that we have lived, becomes how
we see ourselves. Sure we’ve worked on forgiveness, we’ve
worked on being a good, loving person, but have we met
our own dreams? When we were young, we knew we could
be and do and have and live this wonderful life experience,
whatever that was. Have we experienced that dream or
something close to it or did we get distracted and possibly
even stuck along the way?
I have spent years teaching a course in “The Power to
Change Reality” and I have come across this issue over and
over again. Women have raised families, devoted themselves
to a company, or a man, or generally other people’s lives
and when you ask them “What do you want to be, do or
have in your life?” they’re just not sure. They know who
When they look at New Years Resolutions for 2019 they
see themselves forcing their bodies into exercise, stopping
sugars, procrastination and other bad habits, etc. In other
words, taking this old framework of identity (who they were
yesterday) and making it who they are next year, in 2019, plus
a lot of forced pain to make themselves change. This is why
New Years Resolutions don’t work! We don’t like pain and as
long as we see ourselves as this same old identity, we will be
that same person who doesn’t exercise, who eats sugar and
procrastinates and so on.
What if we could be who we might have been? What if
we could live in the magic and unlimited possibilities of the
future? How do we go from who we were to who we want
to be?
Everywhere we look, from science to religion to esoteric
that we live in a dream state that appears real and as such,
whatever we think about, feel and believe manifests in our
world. Science has known this for a long time. Albert Einstein
said, way back in the 1920’s, “Reality is merely an illusion,
albeit a very persistent one.” Jesus, (a little earlier than that)
said in the bible, “You can do everything I can do, and more.”
I might add that if you don’t know his story, he did a hell
of a lot of amazing things. And esoteric theologies have
revealed, in the last few decades, the “Law of Attraction”
which says that whatever we think about, focus on and feel
will be attracted to us and show up in our lives. With all of
this evidence to our potential greatness, why do we live the
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